In a world where individualism is glorified and marriages are under pressure from all sides, marital bliss may seem like an uphill journey. But God’s blueprint for marriage shows us a better way—a way that leads to deep connection, personal growth, and lasting joy.
Marriage isn’t for selfish people. It’s for those willing to grow, serve, and evolve.
Marital success starts with understanding that two are indeed better than one. When life’s burdens are shared, they become lighter. There’s no room for “I did it all alone” in God’s idea of a thriving marriage. Instead, success lies in partnership, shouldering life together and maturing side by side.
One of the core ingredients of marital success is communication. Not just talking, but truly listening, making your spouse feel safe, valued, and heard. It’s about setting the table with more than food; love, respect, patience, finances, and faith should be part of your daily menu.
Avoid the trap of comparison. Every couple’s journey is different. Don’t let pressure from outside voices dictate the pace or style of your marriage. Focus instead on building from within—asking each other what makes you feel loved and supported, and intentionally growing in that direction.
In God’s design, both men and women have needs in marriage. Women desire emotional and spiritual intimacy, while men often long for respect, honour and affirmation. But respect isn’t just a prefix or formality—it’s mutual and from the heart. And love isn’t merely an emotion—it’s a decision to serve, support, and stand by each other, especially in tough times.
Another vital truth is this: marital success is not defined by status. Being married isn’t a mark of spiritual achievement, and being single isn’t a failure. But if you do choose marriage, choose to do it well. Commit to the journey of learning, forgiving, evolving, and building something beautiful together.
Let your marriage be a loving environment where both partners thrive and children feel safe. Don’t let distractions erode intimacy. Keep your connection strong and your purpose clear.
In the end, marital success isn’t about doing it all perfectly—it’s about doing it God’s way: with love, respect, communication, and grace.
An excerpt from the sermon by Pastor Nike Adeyemi on Sunday, April 18, 2025.
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